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Romantic Competence -how to have a healthy relationship

Our ability to grow our romantic competence is based on our skills to have a healthy relationship with others-Insight, mutuality and emotional regulation are the essentials. Insight to our needs, habits, and motivations (as well as our partner's) helps us to authentically connect to others and have appropriate emotional boundaries. Mutuality give each person an equal space and value in a relationship. It is how both respect self and another. Emotional regulation are the skills developed to be able to handle stressful situations in a healthily way and not rely on outside people (or things) to determine your value. 

What are some of the skills that you have not yet developed or areas you have some work to do? If you desire a healthy realtionship, you also have to show up with your own competence. 

People may know what a healthy romantic relationship looks like, but most don't know how to get one. Psychologist and researcher Joanne Davila describes how you can create the things that lead to healthy relationships and reduce the things that lead to unhealthy ones using three evidence-based skills - insight, mutuality, and emotion regulation.

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Why Relationships Get Hard

Relationships are hard. But what if it's not you or them or sex, money or even who picks up the socks. What if there is a far more primitive reason? In this talk, relationship expert Stan Tatkin explores why we fight from the perspective of neuroscience - and how to give your relationship a fighting chance.

Relationship expert, Stan Tatkin discusses the reason behind why our relationships go from honeymoon to hard and why it is hard for use to remain present as relationships develop. Our relational wounds do take over our behavior and color the lens on how view of each other. Are your automatic responses to blame? When conflict happens do you make eye contact with your partner?

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